Getting help is never something I’ve been good at.
I always try to do things on my own, never thinking that I need help with anything. I find it tough to let go, reach out, and admit that I am struggling.
It’s only recently that I have become fully aware of it. I’ve known in the past about it but didn’t see the full picture. I thought I was just resourceful and liked to do things myself. I now realize it’s deeper than that.
Hence why I’ve decided to go to therapy. Yikes.
Such a massive change for me. From not wanting to interact with another human being to full-blown sharing all my problems with them.
This isn’t easy for me to write, I am a naturally closed-off person. I don’t like sharing my private life with others, especially not with strangers.
So why are you posting this online?
Good question. I am asking myself the very same thing. It’s mainly around the fact that I have always done the approach of keeping things to myself. Working on them in my head and letting some people in after the fact if they’re lucky.
I want to change that. I cannot expect to repeat the same behaviors and expect a different outcome.
Einstein described that as insanity. I am hoping that those padded cell walls aren’t coming for me too soon.
I want to fight my urge to do what I’ve always done and do the opposite.
So that’s exactly what I am doing. I am sharing my experiences online to potentially help someone else who is in the same position as me. Maybe from the above you can identify some of yourself in what I just said. If that’s the case. Reach out to someone and ask for help. It doesn’t have to be a therapist. It can be a family member or a friend.
Also, this doesn’t just apply to personal issues. It can also be relevant at work.
If you are struggling on a task, don’t think that by asking for help you are making yourself look stupid. Quite the contrary. Strong and confident people ask for help all the time.
They have great self-awareness and know the areas that they are lacking or struggling with.
Don’t let pride or your ego get in the way. Talk to someone. Anyone.
Or do what I’ve just done and share something online. What’s the worst that could happen?